About Asbah Alaena

I am Asbah. A servent of Allah who is a muslim by birth and choice, Accountant by way of studies, an artist at heart, house wife by profession and a mom to two toddlers. This blog had been my major writing rendezvous while i was young but will feature more grown-up mommy type content, simply owing to the fact that i have become one. My struggles and comforts as a mommy, our cooking and crafting adventures and a rant or two in between ;).

Laws of Parenting

This is definitely My personal favorite :/ Every single time I am bone cracking tired, my kids lose all the interest in falling asleep. They want to run around, with me following them, persuading, coercing and even threatening then to go to bed, but they run away laughing & giggling.

and sometimes, when I am all fresh they surprise me by sleeping so early!

so I think, in the laws of parenthood:

Time required by a baby to fall asleep ∝

Tiredness of a mother

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Independence day Accessories

The independence day is crawling near and every street is slowly turning green.

70 years ago, on the auspicious day of August 14, my country Pakistan was declared an Independent state. However, millions were killed during the process. To honor their sacrifice, every year on August 14, Pakistani people don green, flags are hoisted on cars and houses, Green buntings and banners are made and hung on doors and walls and in the hum of patriotic songs we recall our promise to love our homeland till our last breaths. Insha Allah.

Despite the political mayhem which is prevailing the country, I think I am patriotic. I love my country. And naturally I want my kids to love their homeland too. IMG_5026.JPG

I want them to be part of celebrations, wear green attires, put on badges, make crafts and wear green accessories. Here are three easy accessories for Girls suitable for Independence day. Continue reading

Are you a Good parent?

My Article for Muslimah Bloggers.

 

Parenting is a tough job. It requires constant attention, care, concern, effort, time, energy and love as well. It isn’t something one can take for-granted, after all it is a formation of an individual person,  development of a Human being. And in turn nurturing of a nation.

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However, in recent times parents and specially mothers have been guilty of not doing their job of raising kids properly. We are made to lose focus on something that should be of prime importance – parenting. We have media, social media, shoppings, socializing and a rat race to maintain status quo, in addition to career & family commitments and stresses to distract us.

The results are horrifying – we have hyper active kids, depressed kids, kids with psychological disorders, under-confident kids, stressed kids and kids who show other serious behavioral and even physical disorders. This is a strange sadness. Despite all the gadgets and toys and accessories, we have failed in providing a happy childhood to our own children. Continue reading

Comic Graphs – 2

The season have been changing, and sudden outburst of rainfall (and the ice-cold soft drink, which I would not give blame to) made me sniff and cough for some time now. Those days (and particularly the nights) were toughest, my kids were more upset than usual. The tantrums increased manifolds. The crying sessions were longer.

Ugh. I concluded:

Crankiness of a child   ∝     Illness of a mother

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7 Ways to make your kids Readers.

I have loved books and I want my kids to love them as well. 6 Steps that I take as a mother of two toddlers in hope to instill love of books in them are:

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1) Buy books.

Sometimes we are so caught up in buying them clothes and toys that we forget to buy them books. I think I have personally bought more books for them than toys. And actually made few myself for them as well. one example of an interactive fruit book I made for my baby can be seen hereContinue reading

My Guest Article at Piouscouple.com

Early Qualms of Marriage. My guest article for piouscouple.com

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All my life the one job I had ever wanted to excel in, was motherhood. For that reason I spent most of my bachelor days grooming myself to best fit the roles of a wife & a mom. From cooking & crafting to courses after courses on ‘how to be best at marriage’ and ‘how to raise perfect kids’. And then, I thought I was ready.

Besides, in my sibling’s words, I was an ‘incredible bachelor’. I had a lot on my credentials from academics to house managing, if not extraordinary, I, he said, fairly qualified for the above average.

Therefore, years ago when I was getting married, amidst the joy of the big day approaching near, I was sure of this one thing – I would naturally excel in marriage and everything that is a consequence of marriage. And of course I would be an awesome mom. Continue reading

Reminder Series.

Human being need reminders.

Often, in the mayhem of life, we are so consumed by the present situation that the positivity and optimism is overshadowed by the frustration and stress of a particular moment. And then a reminder works as a vacuum cleaner, sucking away every morsel of worry from our mind. No wonder Allah’s book is full of reminders for us.

I had been thinking about starting a reminder series to help us moms regain the optimism about life and help us build self-love for our own selves and for our children.

Here comes the first one.

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Comic Graphs – 1

Its been a long time my comic app is having an issue and despite I tried to make another account I wasnt satisfied, so while I pray to get my original account back so that I can draw comics – I need to find another way to vent.

Parenting is tough. Mothering, I would argue, is tougher. Unless we find a comic side of thing we will just get burnt in the process.

My take on Murphy’s laws. I’m potty (and pee) training my second one these days and using my valuable experience of 2 solid years of doing the same, I have observed and found out that:

The chances to pee in pants ∝ Newness of clothes worn

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Hehe, Can you relate to the same?

How to teach Preschoolers to use Bathrooms on Their Own

Guest post by Arron Hiddleston

Teaching a Preschoolers to use Bathrooms on Their Own

If anyone ever told you that raising children was easy, they probably weren’t speaking from experience. Parents love their children more than anything in the world, as they are the essence of our reality and a part of our very soul. But children can cause us plenty of stress as well, can’t they? All of those visits to the doctor, taking their shots, moaning and sobbing over every little thing, it’s what the kids so after all. The only thing we can do is to keep them occupied most of the times. We can do some Letter crafts to teach them as well as provide them some activities as well.  Continue reading