Children heal us.

My Guest post at Niqaab Hub: https://niqaabhub.com/kids-heal-grieving-heart/#comment-107

Let Our Children Be The Coolness Of Our Eyes And Heal Our Grieving Heart

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Back then, there was a saying that goes ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ .

Those days, the responsibility of raising a child was considered to be a joint effort for each and everyone that knew him.

This included his grand parents, teachers, extended family and society and community at large.

However, over time the concept of joint extended families slowly disappeared. The burden of rearing a child has fall solely onto the shoulders of both parents.

Raising a child in today’s millenial age is becoming very stressful. The difficulty increases manifold if a mother is parenting a child or children single handedly, in the absence of the father. Continue reading

4 Thrifty Organization for kids room

Guest post by Nicole Gardiner

When it comes to cleaning the kids room, we always have a little voice in our head that says: “Why should I clean that, it will look exactly the same way right after I am done.”

But, having a clean kids room is possible, you just need the right system and tricks for your stuff to remain organized, below are 4 ways to do it:

Designated places

It is easier to organize a kids room by category. Put similar type of stuff at the one place. Like books at one corner, stuffed toys on the shelf, kitchen toys in a bucket near a play kitchen, cars in the drawers etc.

Once you have the designated place for different type or every category of toys; you can move on to the next step.

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7 steps to wean a child & dealing with weaning Tantrums.

Originally published at Muslimah Bloggers

Weaning a baby – specially if you have nursed the child up to 2 years; by the time she is capable of determining her WANTS, can be difficult. But following these steps can surely help reduce the pressure:

7 Steps to wean a child & how to deal with weaning tantrums

  • Intention & dua: Since you nursed a child probably because Allah SWT wants you to do so, make the intention that you will wean around 24 months as Allah swt advised is best for them. And then make dua that it be easy for you. And insha Allah it will be.

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The pursuit of In sha Allah

Yusra Saqib, Theexpatmommy mentioned this incident at her Instagram. And it just resonated with me so well, in her words:

“Ammi you have to buy me toys

“Ok sure”

“No I want them today!”

“Not today, but we will buy them soon Insha Allah”

“But Insha Allah means no; when you say Insha Allah you don’t do that”

She said she was stunned speechless at this incident –

Kids today are demanding. They are always asking – for a bag of candy, for playing in the rain, for an ice cream in the middle of the night, for letting them watch cartoons, perhaps, for the rest of their lives. A real living Horse and a sheep and turtles and sometime even a dolphin :/ Or a moon and a rocket for commute.

And most of the time they want everything RIGHT-AWAY – they want to go to the park NOW, they want TOYS now, and new frocks and shoes with heel and dolls and dollhouses Now, and cars and motorbikes and a bat and million balls, all NOW.

The list goes on. And many Muslim parents, including myself, are guilty of making this classic mistake – saying Insha Allah at the wrong time.

When we are not sure about something, or very sure that we don’t/can’t/won’t let that happen, or weare just plain distracted and have no idea what their tiny tot is going crazy about – we say Insha Allah, and then totally forget about it because mostly it is not important for us.

The kids don’t forget. They look and interpret it differently because it is not insignificant to them. They read our Insha Allah as ‘no’.

It is very careless of us that we are giving our kids such a negative message about a phrase that encompasses so much faith, hope and trust. Insha Allah, If Allah Wills.

We can’t rewind life, but let’s Resolve today that we will try to be an example to our kids, we will make it something they can love. In Yusra’s words:

“I don’t want them to be afraid of this beautiful phrase but to say it fearlessly, confidently and with full conviction.”

Insha Allah.

This incident gave me the idea of this pie-chart below: Pun-intended, obviously 😉

Also, Erika’s, aka Dorky Mom Doodles, piechart What Parents mean when they say Maybe was also another inspiration.

Enjoy 😉

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5 ways to create a Kid-Friendly Bathroom

Guest post by Catherine Collins

To an adult, a bathroom is just another room in the house. It is a place where one usually starts and ends their day. For a child, however, the situation is entirely different. For them, this room is not only functional but it is also filled with so many new things and fun activities – and that is the problem. Usually, the various forms of hazards that might be awaiting a child in a bathroom are things easily overlooked by adults.

In order to avoid mishaps and accidents, especially when you have young children living with you, we have gathered few handy tips that might help you create a kid-friendly bathroom.

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