The pursuit of In sha Allah

Yusra Saqib, Theexpatmommy mentioned this incident at her Instagram. And it just resonated with me so well, in her words:

“Ammi you have to buy me toys

“Ok sure”

“No I want them today!”

“Not today, but we will buy them soon Insha Allah”

“But Insha Allah means no; when you say Insha Allah you don’t do that”

She said she was stunned speechless at this incident –

Kids today are demanding. They are always asking – for a bag of candy, for playing in the rain, for an ice cream in the middle of the night, for letting them watch cartoons, perhaps, for the rest of their lives. A real living Horse and a sheep and turtles and sometime even a dolphin :/ Or a moon and a rocket for commute.

And most of the time they want everything RIGHT-AWAY – they want to go to the park NOW, they want TOYS now, and new frocks and shoes with heel and dolls and dollhouses Now, and cars and motorbikes and a bat and million balls, all NOW.

The list goes on. And many Muslim parents, including myself, are guilty of making this classic mistake – saying Insha Allah at the wrong time.

When we are not sure about something, or very sure that we don’t/can’t/won’t let that happen, or weare just plain distracted and have no idea what their tiny tot is going crazy about – we say Insha Allah, and then totally forget about it because mostly it is not important for us.

The kids don’t forget. They look and interpret it differently because it is not insignificant to them. They read our Insha Allah as ‘no’.

It is very careless of us that we are giving our kids such a negative message about a phrase that encompasses so much faith, hope and trust. Insha Allah, If Allah Wills.

We can’t rewind life, but let’s Resolve today that we will try to be an example to our kids, we will make it something they can love. In Yusra’s words:

“I don’t want them to be afraid of this beautiful phrase but to say it fearlessly, confidently and with full conviction.”

Insha Allah.

This incident gave me the idea of this pie-chart below: Pun-intended, obviously 😉

Also, Erika’s, aka Dorky Mom Doodles, piechart What Parents mean when they say Maybe was also another inspiration.

Enjoy 😉

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5 ways to create a Kid-Friendly Bathroom

Guest post by Catherine Collins

To an adult, a bathroom is just another room in the house. It is a place where one usually starts and ends their day. For a child, however, the situation is entirely different. For them, this room is not only functional but it is also filled with so many new things and fun activities – and that is the problem. Usually, the various forms of hazards that might be awaiting a child in a bathroom are things easily overlooked by adults.

In order to avoid mishaps and accidents, especially when you have young children living with you, we have gathered few handy tips that might help you create a kid-friendly bathroom.

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Are you a Good parent?

My Article for Muslimah Bloggers.

 

Parenting is a tough job. It requires constant attention, care, concern, effort, time, energy and love as well. It isn’t something one can take for-granted, after all it is a formation of an individual person,  development of a Human being. And in turn nurturing of a nation.

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However, in recent times parents and specially mothers have been guilty of not doing their job of raising kids properly. We are made to lose focus on something that should be of prime importance – parenting. We have media, social media, shoppings, socializing and a rat race to maintain status quo, in addition to career & family commitments and stresses to distract us.

The results are horrifying – we have hyper active kids, depressed kids, kids with psychological disorders, under-confident kids, stressed kids and kids who show other serious behavioral and even physical disorders. This is a strange sadness. Despite all the gadgets and toys and accessories, we have failed in providing a happy childhood to our own children. Continue reading

7 Ways to make your kids Readers.

I have loved books and I want my kids to love them as well. 6 Steps that I take as a mother of two toddlers in hope to instill love of books in them are:

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1) Buy books.

Sometimes we are so caught up in buying them clothes and toys that we forget to buy them books. I think I have personally bought more books for them than toys. And actually made few myself for them as well. one example of an interactive fruit book I made for my baby can be seen hereContinue reading

Reminder Series.

Human being need reminders.

Often, in the mayhem of life, we are so consumed by the present situation that the positivity and optimism is overshadowed by the frustration and stress of a particular moment. And then a reminder works as a vacuum cleaner, sucking away every morsel of worry from our mind. No wonder Allah’s book is full of reminders for us.

I had been thinking about starting a reminder series to help us moms regain the optimism about life and help us build self-love for our own selves and for our children.

Here comes the first one.

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