The pursuit of In sha Allah

Yusra Saqib, Theexpatmommy mentioned this incident at her Instagram. And it just resonated with me so well, in her words:

“Ammi you have to buy me toys

“Ok sure”

“No I want them today!”

“Not today, but we will buy them soon Insha Allah”

“But Insha Allah means no; when you say Insha Allah you don’t do that”

She said she was stunned speechless at this incident –

Kids today are demanding. They are always asking – for a bag of candy, for playing in the rain, for an ice cream in the middle of the night, for letting them watch cartoons, perhaps, for the rest of their lives. A real living Horse and a sheep and turtles and sometime even a dolphin :/ Or a moon and a rocket for commute.

And most of the time they want everything RIGHT-AWAY – they want to go to the park NOW, they want TOYS now, and new frocks and shoes with heel and dolls and dollhouses Now, and cars and motorbikes and a bat and million balls, all NOW.

The list goes on. And many Muslim parents, including myself, are guilty of making this classic mistake – saying Insha Allah at the wrong time.

When we are not sure about something, or very sure that we don’t/can’t/won’t let that happen, or weare just plain distracted and have no idea what their tiny tot is going crazy about – we say Insha Allah, and then totally forget about it because mostly it is not important for us.

The kids don’t forget. They look and interpret it differently because it is not insignificant to them. They read our Insha Allah as ‘no’.

It is very careless of us that we are giving our kids such a negative message about a phrase that encompasses so much faith, hope and trust. Insha Allah, If Allah Wills.

We can’t rewind life, but let’s Resolve today that we will try to be an example to our kids, we will make it something they can love. In Yusra’s words:

“I don’t want them to be afraid of this beautiful phrase but to say it fearlessly, confidently and with full conviction.”

Insha Allah.

This incident gave me the idea of this pie-chart below: Pun-intended, obviously 😉

Also, Erika’s, aka Dorky Mom Doodles, piechart What Parents mean when they say Maybe was also another inspiration.

Enjoy 😉

What Muslim Parents actually mean by saying Insha Allah1

Laws of Parenting

This is definitely My personal favorite :/ Every single time I am bone cracking tired, my kids lose all the interest in falling asleep. They want to run around, with me following them, persuading, coercing and even threatening then to go to bed, but they run away laughing & giggling.

and sometimes, when I am all fresh they surprise me by sleeping so early!

so I think, in the laws of parenthood:

Time required by a baby to fall asleep ∝

Tiredness of a mother

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Comic Graphs – 2

The season have been changing, and sudden outburst of rainfall (and the ice-cold soft drink, which I would not give blame to) made me sniff and cough for some time now. Those days (and particularly the nights) were toughest, my kids were more upset than usual. The tantrums increased manifolds. The crying sessions were longer.

Ugh. I concluded:

Crankiness of a child   ∝     Illness of a mother

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Comic Graphs – 1

Its been a long time my comic app is having an issue and despite I tried to make another account I wasnt satisfied, so while I pray to get my original account back so that I can draw comics – I need to find another way to vent.

Parenting is tough. Mothering, I would argue, is tougher. Unless we find a comic side of thing we will just get burnt in the process.

My take on Murphy’s laws. I’m potty (and pee) training my second one these days and using my valuable experience of 2 solid years of doing the same, I have observed and found out that:

The chances to pee in pants ∝ Newness of clothes worn

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Hehe, Can you relate to the same?