About Asbah Alaena

I am Asbah. A servent of Allah who is a muslim by birth and choice, Accountant by way of studies, an artist at heart, house wife by profession and a mom to two toddlers. This blog had been my major writing rendezvous while i was young but will feature more grown-up mommy type content, simply owing to the fact that i have become one. My struggles and comforts as a mommy, our cooking and crafting adventures and a rant or two in between ;).

Struggling with Salah?

if you are like me, you struggle with salah.

Before I was married it was so different, I was pretty consistent and then marriage and 3 babies later – I find myself skipping salah or rushing them, and I wanted to fix it.

i had been making Zikr and dua and Alhamdolilah ended up taking this awesome course by @define360 in the module 1 br Wadud talked about

Mindful salah is important, but why is it important? And how to be mindful in salah? .

  • While praying we face Qiblah – it is an emblem of being connected to the epicenter of Muslims – Kabbah!
  • Do you know angels surround people when they are mindfully praying or remembering Allah and angels bring Sakeenah (peace) with them?
  • And the best part and most amazing part is that while all the commands of worship like charity or fasting was sent down of Prophet Muhammad saw by angel Jibreel AS, Allah swt called Prophet Muhammad PBUH up on the Heavens, very close to him to Gift Him PBUH and us, Salah! .So while Prophet Muhammud PBUH got up to the heaven to meet Allah swt (Miraj) all of us Muslims can pray our Salah and be in Allah’s meeting hence salah is Momins Miraj!

Salah is the most important element of our faith, it is the discerning factor between Muslims and non Muslims! .

May Allah swt bless us enough to be able to guard our salah and pray mindfully Ameen!

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How to be mindful about our Salah?

These are 6 points by Imam Ghazali as explained by brother Wadud (@define360 ) I n the Mindful salah Khutbah – he added “gratitude” to the list as well! So 7 points.

👑 doing a mindful Wudu believing that the water is washing away the sin. Taking time to clean yourself properly. Reciting the Duas (more on this later INSHA Allah)

👑 Having a firm intention, you don’t need specific words though, just intending to mindfully pray salah! And if your mind wanders in salah, REMEMBER every ALLAH O AKBAR. In salah is to redirect your focus back to salah.

👑 understanding what you are saying in salah is also one step to be mindful! We utter words out of habit in salah and often pray rushed salah because of that.

👑 know that you are standing in front of Allah, be attentive, have respect and awe of How Majestic Allah swt is – imagine going to the president/king and talking to them – now think you are talking to the King of all Kings Allah!

👑 While you are in the awe of Allah, keep the hope from Allah alive as well, keep the love of Allah as well.

👑 be grateful that Allah swt gave you the Tawfiq (chance) to stand in front of him and pray; Alhamdolilah .

. 👑 lastly, have some haya (shame) to be mindful! It’s Allah that you are standing in front of! And Allah is all seeing, all hearing!!! Allah KNOWS!!!

SubhanAllah they benefit me a lot, I’m slowly trying to built up my salah! And I hope these points help you all as well. .DF7DA21A-12DF-44FE-868D-6B9D9E973B60

Children heal us.

My Guest post at Niqaab Hub: https://niqaabhub.com/kids-heal-grieving-heart/#comment-107

Let Our Children Be The Coolness Of Our Eyes And Heal Our Grieving Heart

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Back then, there was a saying that goes ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ .

Those days, the responsibility of raising a child was considered to be a joint effort for each and everyone that knew him.

This included his grand parents, teachers, extended family and society and community at large.

However, over time the concept of joint extended families slowly disappeared. The burden of rearing a child has fall solely onto the shoulders of both parents.

Raising a child in today’s millenial age is becoming very stressful. The difficulty increases manifold if a mother is parenting a child or children single handedly, in the absence of the father. Continue reading

Practicing Love.

So this marks the first step of me Drawing comics myself on a software. How cool is that? 😀

Okay, so I really wanted to do something like this for a very long time. I feel, sometimes, people who do not believe in celebrating ‘Days’ usually do not believe in celebrating life at all. They go on saying that ‘love is not confined to Valentine or mothers day etc’ but they don’t do anything special for any other day for the rest of the year as well. That’s kind of ironic.

Having said that, well I do not endorse or believe in Valentine day at all because of all the reasons! I believe in the Prophetic Tradition instead 🙂

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4 Thrifty Organization for kids room

Guest post by Nicole Gardiner

When it comes to cleaning the kids room, we always have a little voice in our head that says: “Why should I clean that, it will look exactly the same way right after I am done.”

But, having a clean kids room is possible, you just need the right system and tricks for your stuff to remain organized, below are 4 ways to do it:

Designated places

It is easier to organize a kids room by category. Put similar type of stuff at the one place. Like books at one corner, stuffed toys on the shelf, kitchen toys in a bucket near a play kitchen, cars in the drawers etc.

Once you have the designated place for different type or every category of toys; you can move on to the next step.

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Turning Basement into Cozy playroom – Guest post.

Every parent knows just how much energy kids have and how important it is to get rid of that extra energy during the day if you want to have peaceful evenings and nights. Probably the best way for kids to have fun and tire out is through play, ideally somewhere away from your expensive flat-screen TV and fragile living room decorations. The basement could be the perfect place for a kids’ playroom once it’s fixed up and decorated. So, roll up your sleeves and get decorating!

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First things first

Turning your basement into a fun playroom isn’t just about decoration and toys. Especially if your basement has been lying empty, unused and neglected for some time, you need to check the condition of your walls and windows. Most basements need additional insulation as well as energy-efficient windows to provide light and ventilation. Also, make sure to check all your pipes for leaks and your ceiling for any damage. Only after you’ve made sure the space is completely safe, you can start your renovation. Continue reading

7 steps to wean a child & dealing with weaning Tantrums.

Originally published at Muslimah Bloggers

Weaning a baby – specially if you have nursed the child up to 2 years; by the time she is capable of determining her WANTS, can be difficult. But following these steps can surely help reduce the pressure:

7 Steps to wean a child & how to deal with weaning tantrums

  • Intention & dua: Since you nursed a child probably because Allah SWT wants you to do so, make the intention that you will wean around 24 months as Allah swt advised is best for them. And then make dua that it be easy for you. And insha Allah it will be.

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